Episode 25

Daily Dump #20: The One Where I Missed My Miracle Morning (Again)

Published on: 20th November, 2025

I missed my Miracle Morning again (big womp-womp energy), my voice is still froggy, my Scentsy order is being held hostage in Chicago, and my brain is doing mental gymnastics about caregiving, finances, and job searching.

Today I talk about the emotional load of trying to take care of my mom, the frustration of wanting someone to choose better for themselves, a Dateline rabbit hole on domestic violence, why scared people stay, starting Financial Peace University with one-third of our former income, and interviewing for jobs while navigating this wild season.

Short, candid, and very “I’m doing my best but also… wow.”

🧭 In This Episode

  • Missing the Miracle Morning… again
  • Feeling froggy + fatigued but pushing through
  • Scentsy vendor event stress + a Chicago shipment in limbo
  • The mental drain of caregiving and acceptance
  • Dateline deep dive: domestic violence, fear, and complexity
  • Dancing with the dog instead of spiraling
  • Reading The Total Money Makeover + starting Financial Peace University
  • Navigating the loss of 2/3 of household income
  • A hopeful job posting + LinkedIn recruiting breadcrumbs

💡 Key Takeaways

  • Someone else’s self-neglect isn’t yours to fix — even when it hurts.
  • Caregiving isn’t just actions; it’s mental load, emotional load, and grief.
  • Domestic violence dynamics are far more complex than outsiders assume.
  • Financial stress reshapes identity, energy, and hope — but learning helps.
  • Even on bad days, tiny joys (a dancing dog, a new book insight, a job lead) matter.

⚠️ Content Note

This daily entry includes vulnerable discussion of caregiving fatigue, family strain, domestic violence, financial stress, and ongoing illness/fatigue. Nothing graphic, but emotionally heavy at points. Listen gently if you’re already feeling tender.

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📌 Standard Disclaimer

This podcast is based on personal experience and is intended for information, education, and entertainment purposes only. I am not a medical professional, therapist, or financial advisor. Always seek the guidance of your qualified health, wellness, or financial professional regarding any medical condition, treatment, or decision. Listener discretion is advised. 💜

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Life in the Bari Lane
Come along for the ride — it's no fun going alone.
Life in the Bari Lane is your 30-minute dose of real talk about life after bariatric surgery — the good, the hard, the weird, and the “nobody warned me about this” moments. No fluff, no “just follow the plan” nonsense — just honest conversations about what it’s like to change your body, your habits, and your whole damn life.

This podcast is a space for the highs and lows of the weight loss journey. Because here’s the truth: bariatric surgery is a tool — not a magic fix. It’s still work. It’s still messy. And it’s still life — with a different GPS.

Whether you’re pre-op and researching, post-op and thriving, or somewhere in the “what the hell did I just do?” stage, you’re in the right lane. This show is about building community — the kind that gets it, supports you, and doesn’t sugarcoat the process.

I’m Sacha — a real-life bariatric patient navigating this wild ride — and I’m here to keep it honest, funny, and deeply human.

You’ll hear:
💥 Unfiltered talk about the hard days
🥗 Nutrition talk that’s actually realistic
🧠 Mental health, body image, and identity shifts
👯‍♀️ Support systems and “friendship fallout”
💪 Motivation that doesn’t suck
🙃 Oops moments, progress wins, and honest reflections

New episodes drop weekly — short enough to fit into your day, but packed with the good stuff to keep you going.

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Sacha Holder

Sacha Holder is a project manager, podcast host, and bariatric patient who’s not here to pretend it’s all perfect. With over a decade of professional experience and a whole lot of lived experience, she creates podcasts that tell the truth about what it means to live, heal, and grow — through chaos, and curveballs, while keeping it together (mostly).

She’s the voice behind Life in the Bari Lane, a bite-sized bariatric podcast for real people navigating post-op life, and The High-Functioning Disaster, a show about showing up even when everything feels like too much. Through humor, honesty, and zero judgment, Sacha builds community through conversation — because no one should have to figure it out alone.